Chasing emotionally unavailable people is a form of self abandonment.
No matter if it’s your partner, a friend or family member, if you are consistently chasing their love or approval through people pleasing, not speaking up for yourself or feeling guilt or shame for setting boundaries and saying no to them, this is an act of self abandonment.
Your emotional needs are not more, nor less important than anyone elses. If you keep putting yourself second, and they expect this from you, this is not love, it’s emotional exploitation. You teach others how to treat you. People treat you one way … the way you allow them to.
It’s worth remembering that when you are emotionally unavailable to yourself (always putting yourself last) you demonstrate that it’s ok for them to be emotionally neglectful towards you too.
If you are emotionally unavailable towards yourself you’re destined to chase relationships with emotionally unavailable people as this is the only relationship dance you’re familiar with.
The good news is once you choose to heal and become more emotionally available, respectful, responsible and kind towards yourself, emotionally unavailable people become very unattractive.
Wishing you a Tuesday full of self respect and freedom from demanding, unappreciative relationships.
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