Some people spend the second half of their LIVES getting over having just survived the first half.
When we have been raised in survival mode, LIVING does not come naturally; it is just not our default setting. Surviving emotional, physical, verbal or intellectual war zones in our initial years skills us with robust fight, flight and freeze reactions to life as our default setting.
Aggressive acting out keeps others at an arms length a safe distance from our battle weary heart.
Submissive retreating inwards involves people pleasing and drains our self-respect, creating apathy and boredom.
Fence sitting, remaining frozen too afraid to commit to our truth also keeps us with waiting issues (weight issues, under or over eating) playing it safe for our survival. Survival is a fear driven existence all about keeping others away from our wounded, tender heart.
LIVING requires love, and is all about allowing others closer to our wounded, tender heart. For some of us, like me, making this U turn takes a lifetime, one day at a time. Being unafraid to LIVE and love aloud is our birthright.
To make LIVING well and loving deeply and openly without apology is an art and a skill few of us master. Nelson Mandela reminds us that …”
There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one we are capable of LIVING”.
May we all refuse to settle for just surviving life.
Let us be willing to start being a little more fearless so we can better LIVE all the days of our lives with unapologetic love aloud? It is a win, win way of life. We get to enjoy the freedom in expressing our love. And, those of us looking on (still recovering from having survived the first half of their life, like me, and maybe you) can see and hear love more clearly, for it is magically healing and a magnetic way of life!
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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