When it comes to emotional effort and commitment, our intimate relationships don’t require we offer 50/50, they require both parties give their best. That means not just physically and intellectually, but most importantly sharing the truth in our heart 100%. In the world of relationships only separations require we go 50/50. Trusting, beautiful, heartfelt intimate relationships do not last if we only give 50/50. We have gotta be brave and give it everything we’ve got.
The hardest relationship to consistently give the best of our most compassionate, kind selves to is the relationship we have with ourselves. When we do not self-honour 100%, we do not earn the capacity or acquire the ability to ask it from another. If we are slack and halfhearted, guess what boomerangs back to us? Half-hearted relationships.
Fearless emotional transparency is how we earn pure and lasting love, respect and loyalty. If we bullshit ourselves, pretend or withhold secrets, this behaviour will be mirrored back to us. The quality of our relationships with others is always indicative of the quality of relationship we are having with ourselves.
Are we chipping away, one day at a time, working on achieving our heartfelt dreams?
Or do we cheat ourselves, go back on our word when commitment becomes hard, socially awkward or inconvenient for our ego?
If we operate from a place of half-heartedness we will always feel like something in our lives is missing. It is. Us. The person we have all been looking for all our lives to love and respect as long as we live is ourselves. Respect and trust are the cornerstones of any quality, enduring, emotionally safe relationship. It is unfair to ask the best of another and not offer it in return.
So let’s take this moment to privately ask ourselves then answer honestly …
Are we giving our all 100% to those we love?
And if not, why not?
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
© Copyright 2016 Cynthia J. Morton Emotional Fitness™
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