Relationships offer us the OPPORTUNITY to heal or hurt our own and the other’s heart.
They are like assignments Mother Nature and Father Time give us to provide OPPORTUNITIES to intimately study love and fear.
Love will heal us. Fear will hurt us.
Whoever is willing to love fearlessly seeing the relationship as an OPPORTUNITY to grow and heal will become stronger and wiser as a result whether the other makes the same choice or not. So when it comes to relationships past or present, if we can sincerely thank ourselves for at least having a go at love no matter what the outcome, we will gain wisdom and self-respect.
Life’s relationship assignments are all necessary lessons providing our heart with the OPPORTUNITY to master how to build our Emotional Fitness. We all need to learn how to hold on to love and let go of our fear before, during and after a relationship.
This is the most challenging yet rewarding skill for our heart to master year in, year out.
When I am asked about previous relationships I ensure I label them as successes, not failures, because they were not failures by any means. I gained a great deal of self-education I could not have gained any other way. Experiential learning is the most painful for sure, but also the most powerful.
Every relationship assignment gifts us with an OPPORTUNITY to know ourselves at a deeper level from another angle. Relationships are only failures if we learnt nothing new about ourselves.
Working out what doesn’t work for us is as important as working out what does. As Winston Churchill reminds us …
“A pessimist sees the difficulty and fear in every OPPORTUNITY whereas …
An optimist sees the OPPORTUNITY with a love for growth within every difficulty!”
So what’s it to be for our heart in future if difficulties arise?
Will we approach new OPPORTUNITIES to learn about ourselves with fear or love?
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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