“Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more RESILIENT”
Amen to this quote from Steve Mariboldi.
If we are seeking to feel freer to express who we really are and live an authentic emotionally colourful life rather than become a beige people pleaser, we will need to work on our emotional muscle of RESILIENCE.
The best way I’ve found is instead of tormenting ourselves with the futile “why’s” when challenging and shitty situations arise; we work our hearts muscle of RESILIENCE better when we ask ourselves “how” we can make changes that will intercept this ever happening again.
I remind myself often when I need to ask myself H.O.W I’m gonna overcome an emotional obstacle that this words letters actually answer my question themselves …
H is for Honestly
O stands for Open-mindedly
W reminds me to make the necessary changes in myself Willingly.
How do we handle upsetting, inconvenient, emotionally immature people maturely? We take our behaviour up a notch, not stoop to petty paybacks or passive aggressive punishment and respond with the grace of an adult not the grief of a child. We conduct ourselves Honestly, Open-mindedly and Willingly, that’s how.
We all accept in adult life that “shit happens” sometimes we can work out “why” it happens and sometimes we cannot.
When we focus on “how” we are gonna get through it with our self-respect in tact, we can actually create sustainable change.
In order to keep building our hearts RESILIENCE we need to not fear change, but change our fear.
So as we recharge our hearts moving forward, let us check in with ourselves to see if we need to work our RESILIENCE muscle perhaps a little more?
How well do we dust ourselves off and get back to our feet, with our dignity in tact when life has tripped us up with a disappointment?
Is our emotional “down time” improving slowly but surely?
Let’s also remember as we take time to rate our Emotional Fitness that the only person we need to compare our hearts RESILIENCE to is with is the person we were yesterday, last week, last month or last time this stressful shit happened in our lives. A diamond is just a piece of charcoal that handled stress exceptionally well.
Did we react with the immaturity of an upset child, or respond with the grace and maturity of an adult?
Progress not perfection, one day at a time is the only way our heart can over ride our ego and keep our passion alive. Lets remember that a hard day for our ego can be a great day for our hearts.
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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