“Because a vision softly creeping, left its seeds while I was sleeping, and the vision that was planted in my brain … Still remains …Within the sound of silence”
This Simon and Garfunkel classic I find hauntingly beautiful, so these lyrics were an unavoidable inclusion as I sat to write about the commanding word … SILENCE.
SILENCE can be both a friend and an enemy in our lives. When it is wielded in fear to punish and isolate us it can become unbearable. However, when we use SILENCE to listen to love it can create a beautiful bond beyond words.
Most of us will confess to having dished out “the SILENT treatment” as a passive-aggressive form of punishment once or twice in our lives. We all know that there is a certain desperation that grows when we are purposefully ignored. It is called “non-contact torture.” It can be the cruellest form of punishment towards a child or a loved one. For example, people can become deeply wounded when someone they considered a friend “defriends” them without explanation on social media forums like Facebook.
Often “The SILENT treatment” is used because the individual has a lack of confidence in resolving conflict. However, the irony is that opting for SILENCE as a punishment solution simply creates even more conflict, usually for the person dishing the treatment out.
However, sacred SILENCE is a very different experience. It is quite simply divine.
When we allow ourselves to be SILENT and listen to the language of love spoken without words through the eyes and touch heaven floods through our hearts. When holding a newborn baby, drinking its divine, pure beauty in with our eyes, putting our finger in their little hands, there are simply no words. Just beauty as we listen in SILENCE to our heart’s touch. When we lay in our lover’s arms slowly blinking and smiling with gratitude for the sacred bond SILENCE is truly golden. Time alone in solitude for meditation, or just time out from the world is also blissful because retreating into SILENCE as we embrace the quietness is essential for our heart’s wellbeing.
Sometimes words just cannot say what our heart needs to communicate and listen for through sacred SILENCE. I find it no coincidence that the word SILENT and “listen” are spelled with the same letters, just in a different order.
So as we review this word SILENCE together, is it something you need to look at differently in your life?
Do you use SILENCE as a punishment or a reward?
Is SILENCE in your world an unwelcomed enemy or as Simon and Garfunkel, myself and many others choose to make it …
“An old friend, we come to talk to again and again”?
Lotsa Love Cynthia xxx
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