When people become LOUD it indicates they’re in overwhelm about not being heard or understood …
We’ve all been there, and will go there again.
If invasive LOUDNESS enters our day let’s remember we can choose to respond with love rather than react with fear?
We use LOUD SPEAKERS in crowds to ensure important messages are received clearly.
When our heart picks up the LOUD SPEAKER in our relationships it’s an indicator that an important message from our heart be heard clearly without mistake.
Extra volume requires extra care.
So when a LOUD person is responded to calmly with warm eye contact and without being shamed for being LOUD and in overwhelm, but validated, this is often all they are seeking … to be respectfully seen and heard.
If we can model respect first and lead by example, making it clear that we do care first and foremost, that’s the best place to start.
If we can respectfully acknowledge with heartfelt concern that they’re upset, then genuinely ask how we can help and reassure them that we won’t abandon them just because they’re being LOUD … eventually they’ll lower their tone to connect with ours.
It’s easier said than done, but is a simple yet empowering skill to master.
A heartfelt LOUD, fearful scream responds best to calm, heartfelt love!
Lotsa love Cynthia xxx
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