“Those who consistently point out negativity, must first look at their own reflection.” It’s important we remember this Confucius wisdom so we don’t become NEGATIVE about NEGATIVE emotions, otherwise ...

During a recent conversation with a highly intellectual client, he asked me whether I thought there was a difference between gratitude and APPRECIATION. In my view it is only a subtle difference, but ...

When we give others their way because we are too fearful not to, this is the definition of dangerous PEOPLE PLEASING. This lifestyle drains our energy and authenticity as we give our power away, fearf...

One of the most damaging forms of heart trauma I work with is verbal abuse. Sexual abuse and domestic violence in my life and in the lives of many of my clients has caused great heart trauma; like bul...

JEALOUSY can only exist when we forget our individual worth; emotionally self-abandon and lack self-confidence. This unsettling emotion, JEALOUSY is often an unwelcome silent guest at many people’s re...

“For me, the highest level of sexual excitement is in a monogamous relationship” … Warren Beatty, a once famous womanizer, now confesses what he has discovered in his later years. Are we human beings ...

ASSERTIVNESS is not what you do, it is a discipline and maturity that creates who and how you are. When we are aggressive we shame others. When we are submissive we shame ourselves. When we are ASSERT...

Her heart was a secret and beautiful garden, but the walls were very high, too high for anyone else to enter and enjoy with her. She had trapped herself. Sound like anyone you know? One of our life’s ...

Forget what hurt you, but never forget what it taught you. If arguments, conflict, worry, disappointment and fear have been visiting our lives we can take heart as we are still on track.  A match need...

This is a mantra reminding us that the shame in keeping SECRETS long term will make us sick. These words are repeated often to those like me recovering from drug and alcohol addictions. Emotional tran...