Control

Whenever we feel out of CONTROL in our internal emotional world we often start to try to CONTROL others in our external physical world. Feeling emotionally overwhelmed and powerless indicates our chil...

Angels & Dickheads

“Embrace your inner DICKHEAD” is a line I say often quietly to myself and gently to my clients from time to time. I believe that we all have the capacity to both enjoy ANGEL and DICKHEAD moments in th...

Stay

“This psychiatry shit. Apparently, what you’re feeling is not what you’re feeling, and what you’re not feeling is your real agenda.” Tony Soprano’s quote works beautifully here as he vents his frustra...

Living

Some people spend the second half of their LIVES getting over having just survived the first half. When we have been raised in survival mode, LIVING does not come naturally; it is just not our default...

Prayer

“Just like a PRAYER your voice can take me there” ….. Where? Madonna had her own destination. Do you have one? Depends on where we choose to get to and if we believe in the act of PRAYER and a higher ...

Negative

“Those who consistently point out negativity, must first look at their own reflection.” It’s important we remember this Confucius wisdom so we don’t become NEGATIVE about NEGATIVE emotions, otherwise ...

Sunday Sabotage

Some of us use any form of emotional sedation we can on SUNDAYS. Maybe we need to quell the anxiety of either too much alone, couple or family time during the weekend hitting emotional overload.  For ...

Cactus Words

One of the most damaging forms of heart trauma I work with is verbal abuse. Sexual abuse and domestic violence in my life and in the lives of many of my clients has caused great heart trauma; like bul...

Jealousy

JEALOUSY can only exist when we forget our individual worth; emotionally self-abandon and lack self-confidence. This unsettling emotion, JEALOUSY is often an unwelcome silent guest at many people’s re...

Assertive

ASSERTIVNESS is not what you do, it is a discipline and maturity that creates who and how you are. When we are aggressive we shame others. When we are submissive we shame ourselves. When we are ASSERT...