Desire

“Love is an irresistible DESIRE to be irresistibly DESIRED” … Robert Frost advises. Heartfelt DESIRE grows deeper, more personal and privately beautiful as we mature. Our deepest DESI...

Habits

“We are what we repeatedly do, therefore excellence, then is not an act, but a HABIT” …..   Aristotle I got to thinking during the sacred hours of dawn that I love so much, how our HABITS, y...

Emotional Guarantees

“There are no GUARANTEES from the viewpoint of fear, none are strong enough.  From the viewpoint of love, none are necessary.” An anonymous quote about GUARANTEES, that is brilliant in its simpli...

Morals

Our MORALS are ours alone to create and uphold as we mature. They are not something we are born with; they are something we learn like good manners. Our heart’s palate develops through trial and error...

Conflict

Conflicted About Conflict? “Peace is not the absence of CONFLICT, but the ability to cope with it.” Thank you Dorothy Thomas, I could not agree more. CONFLICT is a part of every growing and healthy re...

Impatience

Bloody hell, I get so IMPATIENT with IMPATIENT people! So for me to actually remain an adult and be patient with IMPATIENT people well … that takes real emotional muscle. I am still a work in pr...

Control

Whenever we feel out of CONTROL in our internal emotional world we often start to try to CONTROL others in our external physical world. Feeling emotionally overwhelmed and powerless indicates our chil...

Angels & Dickheads

“Embrace your inner DICKHEAD” is a line I say often quietly to myself and gently to my clients from time to time. I believe that we all have the capacity to both enjoy ANGEL and DICKHEAD moments in th...

Stay

“This psychiatry shit. Apparently, what you’re feeling is not what you’re feeling, and what you’re not feeling is your real agenda.” Tony Soprano’s quote works beautifully here as he vents his frustra...

Living

Some people spend the second half of their LIVES getting over having just survived the first half. When we have been raised in survival mode, LIVING does not come naturally; it is just not our default...