Disappointment

“We must accept finite DISAPOINTMENT but never lose infinite hope” Martin Luther King shares a tough unavoidable Emotional Fitness workout for us all. DISAPPOINTMENT is a heavy weight to lift in life ...

Denial

Those of us inexperienced at following our bliss hang onto our DENIAL instead for dear life. DENIAL protects open-heart wounds effectively like a bandage. DENIAL enables many of us to survive when fol...

Why Love?

“WHY do we keep choosing to LOVE?” This is a question many of us ask ourselves sometimes when relationships become emotionally challenging and we reflect on our easier, single, less emotionally compli...

Tone

We know that when it comes to arguments 10% of the conflict is due to our difference of opinion and 90% is due to a disrespectful TONE of voice. Powerful communicators that we willingly stop to listen...

Unfinished Business

What screws us up most in life is the picture in our fantasy of how life was supposed to be and how it was supposed to turn out. Those of us not emotionally supported through our first right of passag...

Solitude

  Turning down the volume on the world at times is so necessary. God knows I personally need to do it more deliberately in the lead-up to the close of an old and commencement of a new day, week, ...

The Honesty Hammer

THE HONESTY HAMMER is too often used to harm rather than heal. If being HONEST compromises our dignity we are using it destructively instead of constructively. THE HONESTY HAMMER is something we learn...

The Ex

Ever looked at your EX and wondered .. “Was I drunk the entire relationship?” I have, and yes I was. Drunk and/or off my trolley on drugs throughout many of my past relationships. I look back at photo...

Betrayal

When we edit our truth for the approval of others we BETRAY ourselves. If we ignore the habit of self-BETRAYAL it eventually shows up in our relationships. When we pretend we are happy, that something...

Difficult

“All things are DIFFICULT before they are easy.” Thomas Fuller reminds us that patience and self-compassion are necessary if we are seeking to learn new skills and experience new adventures in love an...