Cactus Words

One of the most damaging forms of heart trauma I work with is verbal abuse. Sexual abuse and domestic violence in my life and in the lives of many of my clients has caused great heart trauma; like bul...

Walls

Her heart was a secret and beautiful garden, but the walls were very high, too high for anyone else to enter and enjoy with her. She had trapped herself. Sound like anyone you know? One of our life’s ...

Emotional Monogamy

“For me, the highest level of sexual excitement is in a monogamous relationship” … Warren Beatty, a once famous womanizer, now confesses what he has discovered in his later years. Are we human beings ...

Secrets

We are only as sick as the SECRETS we keep. This is a mantra reminding us that the shame in keeping SECRETS long term will make us sick. These words are repeated often to those like me recovering from...

Instant Gratification

“INSTANT GRATIFICATION takes too long.” I couldn’t agree more. Fellow emotionally transparent addict and alcoholic Carrie Fisher sums up the problem with INSTANT GRATIFICATION … Just beautifully. Dela...

Food And Sex

“FOOD is like SEX, when you abstain even the worst stuff begins to look good” shares Beth McAllister … When FOOD and SEX mean everything or nothing in our lives, this is an alarm to let us know an emo...

Vulnerable

I am a proud and grateful introvert, so if I am honest my greatest fear has never been being alone, that is actually easier for me than being with others. My greatest fear has been about being VULNERA...

Hate

“Let no man pull you so low as to hate him” Martin Luther King Jr advises us. Great wisdom, but easier said than done though for some of us. This four-letter word is one I have truly had a love, HATE ...

Intuition

Some of humanity’s most brilliant minds … Bill Gates, Steve Jobs and Albert Einstein, all consistently remind us that their success was due to the fact that they learnt to trust then honour thei...

Triggers

Bang, bang, you shot me down, bang, bang I hit the ground … Words can TRIGGER devastating bullets straight to the heart if we have no emotionally protective boundaries in place. Most of us spend the s...