JUDGE An adult needs to learn to deal with being unfairly JUDGED. It happens to us all. When we decide to JUDGE others with fear fuelling our argument it might make us self-righteously feel empowered ...

ONE-WAY RELATIONSHIPS Where do you sit in the majority of your adult relationships? Give too much? Take too much for granted? Both? Before I got clean and sober back in 1995 I was most definitely a “t...

IN-LAWS or OUT-LAWS? “You are a guest in their marriage and a guest in their home. You have to fold into their rules and their lives if you want to be welcome there.” Dr. Phil advises meddling OUT-LAW...

GUILT Food, sex, mothers and money. These are universally life’s four major GUILT groups. Until I learnt the major difference between GUILT and remorse nothing could change. If you’re struggling with ...

CONFLICT “Peace is not the absence of CONFLICT, but the ability to cope with it.” Thank you, Dorothy Thomas, I could not agree more. CONFLICT is a part of every growing and healthy relationship. “It i...

DRAMA It’s just a little short and sweet word today … When we commit to working on improving our Emotional Fitness the quality of our relationships will improve. Many of us get stunted emotionally by ...

DEPRIVATION Emotional DEPRIVATION is a very real issue many adults silently battle to overcome. DEPRIVATION as a heart wound was first discussed by Dutch psychiatrist Dr Anna A. Terruwe in the 1950s. ...

MORALS Our MORALS are ours alone to create and uphold as we mature. They are not something we are born with; they are something we learn like good manners. Our heart’s palate develops through trial an...

IMPATIENCE Bloody hell, I get so IMPATIENT with IMPATIENT people! So for me to actually remain an adult and be patient with IMPATIENT people well … that takes real emotional muscle. I am still a...