WHY LOVE? “WHY do we keep choosing to LOVE?” This is a question many of us ask ourselves sometimes when relationships become emotionally challenging and we reflect on our easier, single, less emotiona...

UNFINISHED BUSINESS What screws us up most in life is the picture in our fantasy of how life was supposed to be and how it was supposed to turn out. Those of us not emotionally supported through our f...

TONE We know that when it comes to arguments 10% of the conflict is due to our difference of opinion and 90% is due to a disrespectful TONE of voice. Powerful communicators that we willingly stop to l...

THE HONESTY HAMMER THE HONESTY HAMMER is too often used to harm rather than heal. If being HONEST compromises our dignity we are using it destructively instead of constructively. THE HONESTY HAMMER is...

THE EX Ever looked at your EX and wondered .. “Was I drunk the entire relationship?” I have, and yes I was. Drunk and/or off my trolley on drugs throughout many of my past relationships. I look back a...

SIN “Every saint has a past and every SINNER has a future,” Oscar Wilde wisely reminds us. The Seven Deadly SINS are helpful guidelines on how not to self-sabotage and wound our heart and others. The ...

RESENTMENT RESENTMENT hijacks our peace of mind. Consistently resending upsetting thoughts to ourself is like jabbing a sharp stick into a heart wound, we cannot heal; it only inflames our fear causin...

BETRAYAL When we edit our truth for the approval of others we BETRAY ourselves. If we ignore the habit of self-BETRAYAL it eventually shows up in our relationships. When we pretend we are happy, it is...

ALCOHOL It’s a myth that ALCOHOL helps relax and builds quality relationship potential by loosening us up. It actually harms relationships and slows down our nervous system, numbing our heart’s truth....

LOUD When people become LOUD it indicates they’re in overwhelm about not being heard or understood … We’ve all been there, and will go there again. If invasive LOUDNESS enters our da...